Shadow (dariaphoebe) wrote,
Shadow
dariaphoebe

He said, maybe you should just change it. I explained the mess that changing personal documents would be, that it might have implications if I ever got health insurance that actually provided the coverage I needed instead of what I had now. I had a plan, though, I said. There's an organization which exists to help with this very problem. But the suggestion wasn't meant too seriously. He knew it would be a pain. Sometimes, though, you need to choose your pain.

The trip was hastily organized. Indeed I found some clean clothes, chucked them in a suitcase, and left, stopping once in the 6 hours for lunch. A harbinger of things to come, I got carded. His only comment was "looks legit." But the meeting was important, and to the point of that question my biggest worry was whether a suit or a dress would convey the appropriate level of professionalism. I packed both. Shortly after I arrived, he asked, "There's one thing I need to ask. What is the legal name on the document you'll be presenting tomorrow, so I can get you on the list?" Now, I found myself being handed an ID to wear with a picture of me that was several years old, and a name I didn't use.

As we finished lunch, none of the folks who I had just eaten with, a super-set of the group I'd spent the morning talking to, had even seen my ID. I was happy to keep it that way, but had no idea if I could. With a quiet moment, I pulled out my iPad, ran a search I was well-familiar with, clicked a link, and then composed a message in the mail window that showed up. I'd taken action. Now I just needed to follow through.

Step 68: When you recognize your pain points require action, take it.
Tags: name change, transition
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